Posted 4 months ago

What to Expect When You’re Expecting (A Homebirth)

bebinn:

becauseiamawoman:

Alright, so you want a homebirth. Before you decide what is best for you and your family, we should probably break down the process a bit.

So mamas and papas, everyone both and in between, let’s explore the mystical, the magical, the sometimes gross but always awesome world of homebirths!…

Some good safety tips!

Posted 7 months ago

The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. The good things don’t always soften the bad things, but vice-versa, the bad things don’t necessarily spoil the good things and make them unimportant.

(Source: maxsliz)

Posted 8 months ago

awfulbanter:

Opinions are like orgasms, most girls aren’t taught that it is okay to have their own and are only expected to further men’s.

Posted 9 months ago
The Rainbow/PUSH Coalition and it’s attorney, Robert Patillo, traveled to Savannah to investigate and interview employees of Paula Deen’s food conglomerate.

According to Robert Patillo, who interviewed several current and former employees, a family member consistently referred to a black cook as “my little monkey”; a black male employee who threatened to go to EEOC with complaints of discrimination was told “you don’t have any civil rights here” by Deen’s brother; that whites are routinely paid more and promoted sooner than blacks; that until recently a black women who for years helped Deen create her recipes and taught her to cook was paid less than $10.00 per hour; that Deen preferred white and light skinned blacks to work with customers and relegating darker blacks to back-of-the-house operations; that blacks are reluctant to speak openly about working conditions due to fears of retaliation from Deen.

Attorney Janice L. Mathis, VP of Rainbow PUSH indicates that “these reports seem to indicate systemic discrimination and exclusion and are inconsistent with Deen’s statements. The allegations are credible in the sense that they corroborate each other. Unfortunately, there are still pockets of culture in the South that persist in unenlightened attitudes and practices.”

“Coalition finds discrimination case against Paula Deen”

So it’s not just using the n-word, telling racist jokes, or planning a plantation slave-fantasy wedding — it’s career and workplace discrimination, which is legally more serious.

Anybody who’s remotely familiar with the food industry knows about the ubiquitous racism underlying front-of-the-house and back-of-the-house assignments, pay rates, prestige, and career opportunities. It happens everywhere all the time; but maybe this is as good a place as any to start prosecuting it.

Also this: “A black woman who for years helped Deen create her recipes and taught her to cook was paid less than $10.00 per hour.” Yeah, she made millions stealing African American food culture from a woman whom she paid ten bucks an hour.

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ITS JUST THE FACT THAT SHE MADE A MISTAKE ABOUT SAYING THE N WORD ONE TIME 40 YEARS AGO THOUGH. Smmfh (via malanga-coco)
Posted 9 months ago

Can’t have a Whovian wedding without a Whovian cake! I loved my wedding cake

Posted 10 months ago

Reposting to watch later

Posted 11 months ago
You’ll be fine. You’re 25. Feeling unsure and lost is part of your path. Don’t avoid it. See what those feelings are showing you and use it. Take a breath. You’ll be okay. Even if you don’t feel okay all the time.

Louis CK    (via serjorahmormont)

I really really needed to see this.

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Posted 12 months ago

A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On

Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.

Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.

If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?

Autostraddle (via notaprincessdestinedtobeawitch)

Guys. You need to read this.

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Posted 1 year ago

33113:

don’t be too clingy
don’t be such a ‘girl’
be a woman
but be hairless like a child

don’t wear skimpy outfits
don’t be such a ‘slut’
be modest
but take it off when i ask

don’t assert yourself
don’t be such a ‘bitch’
be nice to me
but don’t be a fucking doormat

don’t be ignorant
don’t be such a ‘bimbo’
be intelligent
but don’t argue your opinion with me

don’t wear make-up ever
don’t be so ‘insecure’
be yourself
but don’t complain if i don’t like it

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Posted 1 year ago

What if gun control laws were like abortion laws?

stfusexists:

fuckyeahfeminists:

What if gun rights were regulated like abortion rights? Here’s a list of just some of the hoops you’d have to jump through before you could own a gun:

  • Only one store in the entire state would sell guns. (See: Mississippi, Arkansas, North Dakota, South Dakota, and Wyoming for states with only one abortion provider.)
  • You’d have to fill out an enormous personal background check including intrusive personal information that has nothing to do with your ability to own or use a gun. Then you’d have to wait at least 72 hours and come back to the store. (Remember, it’s the only one in the state. You better hope you don’t live on the other side of Wyoming.)
  • Upon your return, you’d have to sit through intensive mandatory counseling. Your counselor, regardless of his personal beliefs, would have to tell you that gun ownership is actually a bad idea, and that it would negatively effect your mental health to own a gun. (This, despite there being no scientific evidence to support the claim.)
  • Next, you’d sit through a gruesome movie showing the actual aftermath of domestic gun crimes. You’d see people with half a head. You’d see dead children in their beds. You’d see the bloody aftermath of a school shooting. You’d be shown statistic after statistic warning you that you’d be contributing to this morally degenerate sanctioning of murder.
  • If you lived in Virginia, you’d have to come back (again) for an invasive and uncomfortable fMRI (which costs around $300 out of your pocket) to ensure your honesty in answering all the background check information and your intentions to use your gun responsibly. (This was as close as I could get to the invasive transvaginal procedure included in the recently passed Virginia bill.)
  • Oh… and if you were married, your spouse might have to sign off on your gun ownership.

Welp.